Sweet Irony

Oh how I will miss them…Especially these two! We’ve trained together since they were born. In SAT terms… Mom is to Renshi as Dad is to Sensei. She is already showing the signs: Black belt test. License and first car. Looking at colleges. Raising them in the dojo was the best thing we ever did. […]

What if You Could Embrace the Hard Times?

He had a hard class last night. There had been tears and thoughts of quitting, but Mom and Dad did the best thing, THEY TOLD ME and brought him to me this afternoon to talk it out. Luckily, I am not so scary, out of my uniform, with a towel around my waist and dripping […]

Middle Ranks

Dr. Seuss called it The Waiting Place, in Oh, the Places You Will Go! In Karate, we call it Blue Belt Blues. White Belts are Emotional and Excited. Yellow Belts are Arrogant. Blue Belts are Creative. They know that they are a little better than the cocky yellow belts, and yet, hopefully, we have humbled them […]

Will Joining a Karate School Keep My Child from Being Bullied?

Nope. Perhaps our biggest mistake as a culture is starting with the belief that people are nice. We treat mean behavior as an exception, dole out punishment (attention) to the offender and leave the target alone. Every child needs a champion and an advocate. Every parent should be that for their kid, but if they […]

Making Better People

START WITH WHY, by Simon Sinek. After watching the TED Talk a couple of times I decided to dig deeper by buying the book. It has been a worthwhile read and the result has been a discovery of sorts for me and my karate school, Bushido Karate Dojo. The short of it is this: Martial […]

Behavior Management IV

Can you believe he is back? I was wrong; so wrong about my assumptions. He missed 2 weeks because of summer scheduling. He is doing SO WELL in class. He is listening to directions. He recalls expectations and responsibly does what he is supposed to do when he is supposed to do it. Do I […]

Tell the Truth

My dogs tell time. Two minutes after 6 am is when they start barking if we decide to sleep in, and their wishful thinking starts at 4:30 for the usual 6 pm supper. Dropping the boy at church camp and doing a movie after got us home late last night for the routine. The old […]

5, 4, 3, 2, 1

One of my simplest behavior management tricks is to count backwards. Sifu Chris Heinztman and Sifu David Chin came to Maine to teach us how to properly do Lion Dance. While they were here, we took everyone attending the workshop to Quaker Ridge. It is a beautiful local spot from which you can see the […]

Definition of Success

Late last night I ordered, “The Dip” by Seth Godin. He is straightforward and his stuff makes sense in a ‘this is not how the rest of the world sees things kind of way’. I am always looking for that next voice to inspire me, but I woke up realizing this morning that very few of those […]

Behavior Management II

Perhaps he had learned to trust me. That I wouldn’t yell at him, for anything. That there would be clear expectations of what is and is not acceptable. That the consequences would be just as clear; 10 push ups of course. And that there would be compliments, high fives and stripes on his belt for […]